The aftermath of a divorce is often difficult for children to cope with. Spending time with each parent in their respective households can become confusing if both parents do not establish a set of consistent rules and routines and make children feel insecure. Therefore, it is crucial for parents to collaborate on this task, to help ease their children’s anxieties and worries about their stability as a family. Although your marriage is over, consistency in both households will assure your children that you are still a co-parenting team.
Working with Your Former Spouse
Divorce can make the future seem uncertain and, without any predictable routines in their lives, your children may act out or have trouble developing good habits and healthy boundaries. With consistent rules in place, they will feel less stressed, learn self-discipline, and develop better decision-making skills.
As important as it is to establish consistent routines for your children, it would be impossible to have identical households, especially since you likely have different schedules and lifestyles. However, you should seek to find common ground on bigger issues.
You and your spouse should ask each other some of the following questions as you collaborate on creating consistent rules and routines:
- How will you discipline your children if they disobey the rules?
- How will you reward your children for good behavior?
- Are there any issues you are willing to be flexible on?
- Are there any issues you wish to be steadfast on?
- How will you explain the rules to your children?
- Are there any issues a specific parent should handle?
- Do you foresee any issues with your approach?
If you run into any problems, you may have to revisit these rules and routines with your former spouse, so be willing to collaborate further on these matters.
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