Divorce is difficult for both spouses to endure no matter who initiated it. If you have children, this process will be even more challenging for them to cope with. For them, this will be a great time of uncertainty and they will likely feel very anxious about the future, so it is important to do what you can to minimize the impact this may have on them.
Getting Your Children Through Divorce
No matter what, your divorce will be challenging for your children to cope with. That said, there are ways for you to mitigate the impact it will have on them. Here are some tips for a smooth divorce:
- Keep them out of it: Of course, your children cannot be kept entirely out of your divorce. They will want to know what to expect, where they will be living, and other important details. However, you do not need to divulge the details of what happened in your marriage. No matter how much you hate your ex at the moment, this is the kind of information that will only hurt your children. You should also avoid arguing in front of them.
- Reassure them: Children often blame themselves for their parents’ divorce. At that age, it is sometimes difficult to internalize that people and things exist independent of each other, so you will need to let them know that this is not their fault.
- Consider therapy: Therapy can be incredibly helpful for both you and your children. It gives people the space to share what they are feeling and helps give them the tools they need to process their emotions.
- Nurture a relationship with your ex: Unless your ex-spouse was abusive toward you or your children, it is important to maintain a cooperative relationship with them. You do not necessarily have to be friends, but you should treat each other with respect and be cordial.
You and your ex will still be co-parents long after the divorce is finalized, so keep that in mind as you navigate the process and try to be civil with one another for the benefit of your children.
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If you are divorcing your spouse, do not hesitate to contact the team at Barach Law Group LLC for the help you need. You can rely on us to smoothly guide you through this process and protect your interests. Call our law office today at 617-819-1805 to schedule a consultation with one of our attorneys.