It is no secret that divorce can take a heavy toll on everyone involved, particularly young children who may end up getting caught in the crossfire. Oftentimes, children may feel a sense of blame for the end of their parents’ marriage, resulting in low self-esteem, anxiety, and insecurity in relationships. Therapy can help prevent your children from internalizing these negative beliefs and improve communication.
Helping Your Children Get Through the Divorce
Divorce can have numerous negative effects on children, including depression, attachment issues, anxiety, poor coping strategies, and strained relationships with their parents. Therapy can help your children manage these emotions and learn how to develop healthier coping mechanisms.
In addition to therapy, here are some ways in which you can help your children manage their anxiety during divorce:
- Keep in mind that you are not the only one who is suffering and that your children lost something too. Respect their feelings and encourage them to talk about them. You might not be able to answer all of their questions, but being supportive and listening is often helpful enough.
- Reassure your children that, regardless of the divorce, you will love them no matter what. Let them know that the divorce was not their fault and there is nothing they could have done to prevent it.
- Your children may need some new routines, but if you can keep some the same, do so. The fewer things your children have to adjust to, the better.
- Create some new rituals for your children to create a sense of safety. Reliable rituals can help them feel grounded and give them a sense of familiarity.
If you are unsure if your children need therapy, the following are some indicators that you should consider seeking treatment for them:
- They are having difficulties sleeping and eating without any medical basis
- Their school performance is declining
- They are exhibiting aggressive behaviors towards others
- There is a noticeable decrease in self-esteem
- They developed new obsessive or compulsive rituals
- They engage in risky behaviors
- They are in a consistently sad mood
These are just some signs that you may want to consider therapy for your children. Discuss the matter with your co-parent to discuss how to move forward.
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