With spring break just around the corner, children are looking forward
to taking over a week off from school and having fun with family and friends.
However, school holidays are often a cause of dispute between divorced
and separated parents.
child custody and visitation orders will define how the kids will spend their school
breaks or vacations, some orders leave the decision up to the parents.
Since there is plenty of room for miscommunication and misunderstandings,
establishing a plan ahead of the anticipated holiday can ensure the children
have the best time of their lives and both parents avoid conflict.
The following are several effective co-parenting tips to help parents determine
how the kids spend their vacations:
Long-term planning – The goal is to make sure both children spend quality time with
each parent and have the most fun possible. When it comes to planning
fun trips for the children, perhaps both parents can alternate vacations
to make scheduling arrangements as fair as possible. Document your plans
on the custody calendar for ultimate transparency—and go so far
as to share each other’s itinerary every time you or the other parent
takes the kids on vacation. There are several apps and calendar tools
available for download in your cellphone’s app store.
Take the children’s changing schedules into account – If you have multiple children currently in elementary school,
that may not be the case as they get older. When one of your kids moves
on to middle school or high school, that means having to deal with different
times for school breaks.
Take your jobs into account – Each parent’s employment situation is an important factor
to consider. One parent may be busy during a specific time of year, which
makes sense of the other parent to have full custody for the duration
of the break—in exchange for having the kids for an extra week or
so during another school holiday. Effective co-parenting is when both
parents do their best to be flexible and work with each other’s
Have a back-up plan – Sometimes plans fall through, which means both parents must work
during the time they planned on having a vacation with the kids. If both
you and the other parent plan on staying home, consider sharing parenting
time during the children’s break. Fun ideas for having a “staycation”
include visiting local attractions and creating special days with your
kids (e.g. kids cooking day, movie and pajama day, or make your home into a hotel).
Have the schedule approved by family court – To hold each other accountable when if persistent disputes happen,
the parents should submit their plan to the judge to make it an official
If you are interested in modifying a current child custody order in Framingham, MA,
contact our experienced family law attorney at
Barach Law Group LLC today.