If you feel like enough is enough and you are ready to initiate a
divorce, ensure that you are well prepared to begin the process off on the right
foot by thinking ahead and formulating a plan. The divorce process can
be hotly contested and substantially expensive, so it is critical to do
whatever it takes to avoid potential issues and be aware of what’s
coming as early as possible in the process.
The following are several issues you need to take care of before filing
Learn everything you can about what to expect. Educate yourself about the entire divorce process. Your attorney will
likely be helpful in explaining the basics and nuances of your case.
Always put your children first. Focus on the needs, health, and emotions of your children before initiating
a divorce. Spend quality time with them, preferably doing fun activities
they enjoy. Keep in mind, kids need to find normalcy during times of significant
change, so make sure you also prepare for the upcoming changes in their
lives. Consider thinking about how you will break the news of the divorce
to them and be prepared to answer any questions they may ask.
Assess your finances. Since divorces are typically expensive, they can substantially alter
your financial situation if you aren’t too careful. Evaluate your
finances by taking a hard look at your shared assets. Ensure you have
accounts of your own—since having at least one account independent
of your spouse can help protect you in the event the other party becomes
vengeful and attempts to shut you off from your shared funds.
Reduce your presence in social media. While we use social media to stay connected with friends and family,
keep updated with current events, and a means to share your day-to-day
activities, it can be your enemy during divorce. While it is natural to
express your emotions online, you need to refrain in order to protect
yourself. What you say or post online could be used against you later
in court, so it is wise to avoid posting while going through the divorce
process. For instance, if you post a picture that shows you enjoying a
luxurious vacation, and you later file for spousal support, the court
could see your post as proof of your financial situation and deny you
If you are interested in initiating a divorce in Massachusetts,
request a free consultation with our Wellesley divorce lawyer at
Saponaro Barach Bingham LLP today.